Society

I think the saddest thing is that people think they have to change who they are in order to be accepted. women and girls think they have to act a certain way, look a certain way, have breast enlargements, wear make up or have plastic surgery in order for males to like them.
on the male side, there is this male macho thing where guys think that if don't they act tough all the time then they will be considered less of a man.

People should be able to be who they are.
personally I tell guys that give me advice on how I need to act or what I need to do to my body in order for them to be interested in me to go screw themselves because with that attitude no one will do it for them. rude I know but guys like that annoy me.

and guys, it's ok to show affection, tenderness or emotion generally. it doesn't make less of a man it makes you more of one and it's a real hit with the ladies lol.